A friend recently said “don’t you have shame? You are getting too old babe.” She says marriage is a blessing and something worthy getting into.”
The definition for marriage varies. It can be seen as the coming together of man and woman as husband and wife. This institution connects man and woman together to their children.
According to some people or culture, marriage is supposed to be compulsory before any sexual activity. How many people wait for marriage these days to be sexually active?
The circumstances of the world and society are changing, so do people’s opinion.
I have a thousand and one reasons why I should not get married... here are few:
- How can one be proud of the institution called marriage, when a man out of some reasons best known to him, installed his wife and kids abroad and then do shit here. Of course! A thick blanket or even a hot cup of coffee won’t help when the cold nights come calling.
- Have seen a man who kicked his wife out, when his girlfriend got pregnant and married her. “these things happen and it isn’t voodoo.
- Another man practically lied to a girl that he’s not married, just to sleep with her. Yeah! And during that moment the ring disappeared from his finger.
- My cousin’s friend, who is a lesbian got married because the society demands that of her, and then secretly cheated on her husband with her lesbian partners.
- How do I explain the woman/wife that is married to her job and practically abandoned her husband for her job? Perfect excuse for the man to cheat, which he did when his marriage was barely eight months old.
- My boss tries his luck with other girls even under the wife’s nose. “I swear this is a disease”
- To crown it all, my neighbour secretly got a second wife and they had four children together, and when being confronted by his first wife, “it was a mistake” he said. Like seriously “do these men know what the word “mistake” means.
Marriage is supposed to be God’s greatest gift to us all that comes with blessings, and the feeling that comes with it should be described as “heaven on earth.” It is a life- long commitment that restrains self centeredness, self indulgence and self gratification.
These days people don’t enjoy their marriages, they endure it. But for how long can they hold on?
We all dream of living happily ever after but things are different now. We have lost our values, and our lives have become too complex and this affects compatibility with other people.
I can’t even come to term, with the idea of I being seen as a piece of furniture or even being used as a punching bag by any man.
Call it pride, madness or whatever, I call it self-worth.
And now some people are of the opinion that I am ripe for marriage...
