what do men want

After the quarrel with my boyfriend Tobi, i became cold and confused. I thought about all my relationships in the past and how the break-ups affected me

I never talked about my relationship with my friends but sometimes some situations just make you talk. You talk to people available, even the Deaf and just assume they understands you

My friend Samira said "these days I pray to Allah to bless me with a man that's God fearing, with plenty of money, that will take care of me. (hope u agree with me that "plenty of money" and "that will take care of me" are two different things oh.

At that point it occurred to me that i haven't  really been with a man that "spoilt me silly" 

Gosh! What do men really want?

Some men will say, "I want a beautiful, hardworking woman, she must know how to cook, be able to handle the home and must be good in bed"

Okay, maybe I added the last quality because some men won't say that, they would rather find that out themselves.

I remember my brother Usman, who spends his time watching women with big behind digging it in musical videos and when you try to talk, he screams 

"You are distracting me" 

I thought about my friend Halima, whose husband wouldn't respect her because she is not working. When she tried getting a job few months back, he said "I don't think these kids are grown enough, sit at home and take care of them"

Or is it Ameh's husband, that will tell his wife "I can not be your ATM machine, go and work for your money"

Chai! Women don suffer... Abeg o, is it the situation of the country that has blinded the sense of reasoning of these men of today. All they think about is money! Money!! Money!!!

We have seen men that respects their wives, their love, you admire from afar, a Perfect love you would call it, but don't be deceived.

He feels that way because she has a means of livelihood, she supports the family. The moment she stops working, he starts misbehaving.

I see men as complex unbelievable creatures... i remember those days Tobi would say "I don't want you stressed, when we get married, there will be someone doing all the cleaning for us".

All na wash" I do his cooking, cleans his house when am around and he's still not happy because I don't wash his cloths. Meanwhile, I told him oh "sey I no like to wash cloths" 

We all know that these days you get someone to do your laundry and you pay, shikena! But Tobi dey do ijebu and strong head won't let him.

Men of these days,  just want to use you, they make you carry all their responsibilities and they run from yours. " ask them for money, plenty stories go start or they begin to stutter.

Ebuka! That one, if his girlfriend comes back from work 8pm, he begins to act funny, if She comes 9pm, he won't talk to her at all.

In the middle of all these thoughts, I came across a post somewhere that says

" if you like serve a guy well spiced noodles and chicken with diamond plate,  or do acrobatic during sex, if he won't marry you, he won't"

Let me add, if you like clean the house every second, cook and feed him every hour, or bath him morning, afternoon and night, if no be you, no be you oh.

I guess years to come, we will still be asking ourselves this question.

"What do men really want"